The Spiral of Silence is the theory that people with a minority views will tend to feel socially isolated by those views. I absolutely believe this is true. There was a survey done very recently in which people were asked why they would de-friend someone on Facebook. Unpopular political views ranked near the top of reasons why people de-friend someone from their friends list on Facebook.
It’s all fine and good if your friends believe the way you do politically and it’s mostly preaching to the choir, but the issue becomes much more difficult, when you’re dealing with people with competing views. I’ll be the first to admit that when I see someone wants to friend me on FB, and if I see that their political affiliation is Republican, I most likely won’t add them as a friend.
Perhaps this is the wrong way to do it, I should friend them, and let them see a differing opinion from what they may be force fed by FAUX News, and little by little, change their views on some issues. And perhaps, at the same time, I may learn something from them as well.
Just the other night on FB, a friend of mine I know from the Denver Gay Men’s Chorus who was raised as Mormon in Utah, and sang backup for the Osmond Family at one time, and has a very conservative family, expressed his frustration over the Senate Republicans blocking the vote to end DADT. He prefaced his posting on FB with an apology to his “Utah friends and family”. Well the family and friends responded that “We have better things to talk about than this crap”.
Obviously to people who are not gay, they will probably not feel the same way about the issue as someone who is, and it’s quite easy for them to dismiss others’ feelings when it’s an issue which doesn’t affect them. I just had to post and say basically that I see no reason why we, we being gay or straight liberals, should have to apologize to anyone before they can post something they care deeply about lest they feel the wrath of “friends” or family.
I’d like to know the last time one of them apologized for the murder of Matthew Shepard, but instead, you have an elected United States Representative from North Carolina saying it wasn’t a hate crime at all, and he wasn’t killed for being gay, but it was rather “a robbery gone bad”. How is that supposed to make Matthew’s family feel any better? Oh, it was a robbery gone bad, that makes it more tolerable that my son is dead.
That didn’t stop the crowd from Westboro Baptist Church (if you can call them that), from picketing poor Matthew’s funeral. Do you suppose they wouldn’t have picketed anyway, even though it was just a robbery gone bad and Matthew’s sexual orientation had nothing to do with his death? They still showed up to picket Matthew’s funeral with their obligatory “God Hates Fags” signs.
When there are people of this ilk out and about proudly showing off their bigoted views and yet somehow, we feel the need to spare their feelings lest we sully their “delicate minds” with the ugly truth, I see no reason to afford them the courtesy of apologizing beforehand.
They need to see sometimes that yes, I am wrong. These people against the repeal of DADT would probably have been the same people against integration of schools, overturning the bans on interracial marriage laws, and a myriad of other examples where they’ve been on the wrong side of history, and it will be exactly the same way once DADT is finally overturned.
I honestly have gotten to the point that I don’t care how other people respond to my opinions, but my reactions are markedly different when I’m face to face with people. It’s much more difficult to remain true to my ideals than it is to some nameless or faceless person on the internet, but sometimes, people should be ashamed of their views, and if they feel socially isolated because of it? Good, it’s about damn time.
Unfortunately, this goes both ways, and thankfully we have freedom of speech in this country. We don’t have to like what they say, but at least they can say it, and the same is true for the other side too. They may hate what I say, but at least I have that freedom. I may not have as many “friends”, but at least they know how I feel, and if I’m socially isolated because of it; they weren’t very good friends to begin with.
So if this leads to negative effects in society to where people are feeling socially isolated because of their views, then it’s true. But does it need to change? I don’t think so. If you don’t like what’s on the channel, change it or turn the TV off.